Discussion of a small squabble between far relatives, fortunately now resolved, reminded me of Bob Eberth's great poem.
Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean in a way that the listener perceives what you intended. Other times it's hard to hear in a manner that you comprehend what the speaker wants to convey. Both result in needless misunderstanding and heartache.
Tickling the Porcupine
Our conversations as of late,
Like I’m tickling the porcupine.
Reprinted by permission, headed "Sometimes
communication can be so hard."